Life of Parents

I was born on the 21st of April 1978 to my parents and sister. My dad is an engineer and he’s a good husband and a loving father to me. I have two elder brothers and they are my best friends. So, I won’t speak much about them as every sister and brother has their own story and we don’t need to compare or talk too much about what they do in their lives. 

When we were younger we remember how we used to live with parents without a stable home. Even if they lived in smaller homes they rarely stopped for meals or holidays. They always relied on each other but there were some rare times when one of them could take time off from work. We know this isn’t because sometimes it took him that long, but sometimes it did and sometimes because of sickness or even his own choice.

I’ll share some of my suggestions, learned as I went on in this article. I’ll also discuss some areas of parenting that I believe can be improved. As I write I am talking about some things I have learned and ways other people have failed to offer advice I have not experienced myself.

What makes it difficult is the way parents can take away so much from their children which leaves them weak and fearful. Here are some tips to start the next stories.

1. Love your kids

I know some of you might be wondering what exactly I meant by love but if I said love would mean that you must be physically there with your kids but it doesn’t. Love is a term that includes emotional and social love. Do not allow yourself to lose sight of your children. Your family isn’t a place for you to go or to stay.

If you don’t care at all then you don’t know how much you would love another human being. Every person in the world loves their children and wants to give them the best possible life that the world can provide. Children are the people in which they get to learn different lessons than adults.

Teach them about responsibility, independence, understanding, and communication. Also teach them to be supportive of others as we all are capable of being good, kind, loyal, and giving. Be the people you would consider close friends and do the things you are supposed to do for them. I believe it would be pretty nice if my son knew how important it is to give our babies kindness and attention because they make a difference. The only thing that I think I would do differently is to make sure that I don’t give out hugs at the end of a conversation.

2. Be trustworthy

I always hear women complain about how horrible it is to be trusted of something your parents trust you with. You can lose some valuable relationships with your parents if you aren’t trustworthy with what comes with trusting them and treating them equally. Never let them feel threatened.

Let them enjoy what you have and not ask questions or demands about what you do for them. Don’t try to make them feel guilty for asking. Tell them you love them and show them that you are willing to help them find a job or something else as needed for them. Make sure not to make promises to them without giving things back like money or gifts. Have your expectations met and be prepared for it.

3. Keep them close

Children are hard to come by and it takes time to get through everything they have gone through. They will move, they will change their personalities and most importantly they will change who they are. You will have to love your kids more to keep them in the same place they are and show them that you love them and that they are special to you.

Give them a chance to spend the last parts of their childhood away from home. Encourage them to do chores or tasks around the house and make sure they know they can come to you for whatever they need anytime. Keep them close. Set boundaries with them and be respectful of what they want and need.

4. Understand with an open mind

As I have mentioned above, you will not be able to run away and hide behind strangers if you are open or honest with them. Being kind, caring, and loving your parents can help you build a bond that helps them understand you. At first, they may not always understand why you are being harsh to them or maybe it’s just something they don’t understand and they may be upset with you.

But it might seem frustrating or annoying. But as time passes those reasons get forgotten and it is easier to forgive and just continue doing what makes them happy. I hope you realize that sometimes we are faced with situations like these. Just by being open and being honest you can understand why there is anger or sadness in a situation. Regardless, always remember that you do not owe them anything. Once you understand why they are upset or angry with you it becomes much easier to deal with.

5. Don’t expect perfection

My opinion is that it is impossible to be perfect as a parent and no one can have it all. Sometimes life is not fair to us so having a relationship with our kids can bring disappointment. Always remember that you cannot force the children to follow your standards while teaching them what is right and what you want them to do.

Their decisions may change and it will always be the decision of yours as their parent. Remember that there is just a difference between what they want and what you feel like as their parent. Always remember to be patient and just stay present to help them develop whatever they decide to do.

Things may get complicated and stressful sometimes, but remember that it is your job as a parent to take care of your children. Take them and teach them from there. Never push them to do something you are not comfortable teaching them as their parent and trust me if they don’t want to leave you will always come back.